Sex is also likely to be different compared to the pre-menopausal period
Men with menopausal partners report feeling rejected and undesirable because their partners take longer to become aroused, feel less like having sex and produce less vaginal lubrication. Be aware that these changes are influenced by hormonal changes, which are beyond her control. Don’t feel personally threatened if she doesn’t want sex as often or doesn’t experience orgasm as intensely as she used to.
Encourage your partner to keep having sex. If she doesn’t want to have sex with you, she may still want to masturbate, but don’t be offended. Self–stimulation also helps improves vaginal elasticity, so her masturbating may ultimately improve your sex life!
The brain is an important sexual organ, and thinking about sex increases sexual desire. It’s therefore important for you and your partner to think about sex.
Don’t assume sex will happen. Menopausal women and their partners are usually busy with work, continuing parenting commitments, and new responsibilities such as caring for ageing parents. You may find that you are both simply too tired for sex when everything else is finished.
To overcome this problem, try to dedicate some special time for being together and being intimate. This may involve sex if you are in the mood. However, a special dinner, a moonlit walk in the park, a secluded picnic or a romantic massage might be more appropriate, particularly if her sexual symptoms are severe and she simply doesn’t feel like sex. Even when it doesn’t involve sex, spending time being intimate is a way in which you can show you partner that you want to be close, with or without intercourse.
Every couple’s sex life is different, and in the menopausal period, a couple’s sex life is also likely to differ from that of other couples. Don’t compare your sex life to the sex life of other couples, or to how you remember your early sex life. [Read more…] about Sexual stimulation promotes vaginal elasticity and may promote improved sexual function in menopausal women, who typically experience declining vaginal elasticity